Well, on this beauty of a Tuesday morning, excluding one carpet installation nightmare, (another entry in itself!) I’ve realized how much I’ve neglected this blog lately. We are already halfway through the last month of summer, and it has made me aware of what little time I actually have to get sh** done and still make time to see my friends and family. My boyfriend and I are currently in the middle of renovations in order to list our condo. We are ready for a new home, a more spacious home, a home which allows us to house his not-so-small minion collection and my art supplies – pushing 30 but still children at heart! I am finally on holidays and am happy to have some downtime, because aside from the renovations, this downtime has also brought new revelations!
Let me tell you, I’ve battled with this for quite some time. Learning to accept that I cannot change another person’s behaviour hasn’t always been easy. What I’ve learned is that it’s not up to me or anyone else to convince someone that their behaviour is toxic or wrong. You can voice your feelings, but ultimately it’s for them to decide. If it’s not something they can recognize then you must swallow your pride and move on because from that point forward it is out of your control. Difficult to adjust to as it may be, focus on what you can change, that being your response, your attitude and possibly how you interact with others in the future.
But let’s be honest, we’ve probably all had life experiences that have left us feeling bitter with negative thoughts and as such said things we maybe wished we hadn’t… “foot in mouth disease” as my mom calls it. It’s a real thing folks! If I can leave you with one piece of advice today it would be to be careful with your words, sometimes having a filter is important in situations, and sometimes not, but just be mindful of the situation you’re in and trust your gut – if it feels wrong, it probably is. Allowing yourself time to think before you respond can save you from grief later on too. I’ve come to the realization that it does not serve me or anyone else when so much negative energy is put out into the world. And I know I tend to preach a lot about positivity but I also can recognize when it’s perfectly ok to have an off-day. I think it’s just important to remember to bounce back from it. It’s really tough to live a peaceful life when you have unresolved feelings and are dwelling on things you have no control over.
Be Grateful. Be Present. Be Kind. 🙂