Life As I Know It (for the time being..)

Writer’s block can be a real jerk am I right?? Life has also been exceedingly busy lately, and it’s made it more difficult to take time to dedicate toward my blog – may be a crappy excuse, but it’s the one I’ve got! This year has been a rollercoaster, and right now I feel like I may be at the peak, I got engaged on my Disney vacation(doesn’t get much more magical than that!) so of course I am all twitterpated and distracted – BUT! A friend of mine said I have an excuse to be for at least a solid year now, so I figure I can relish in it for the time being 😉 …and so perhaps life is no longer feeling like a rollercoaster but more so a smooth sailing ride onward and upward with some bumps here and there along the way – there goes my mother’s words again…

I’ve realized that the bulk of my earlier 20s were essentially a part two to my teenage years, maybe this is normal since they’re still somewhat attached…but ohh the melodramatics and the insecurities, and the feeling that your youth is passing you by when you haven’t even come CLOSE to the much greater moments you’ll soon have …of course this is something I can laugh about now but I really didn’t have a clue then. I thought I knew it all, and yet I still had and continue to have so much to learn. This year has truly put new meaning into the expression “this too shall pass”. If it’s taught me anything, it’s to not be too discouraged when you’re at a lower point in your life, because while it may seem impossibly difficult to see that life could turn around, it is strengthening you, and it is helping you become the person you’re supposed to be by testing you in the more challenging moments.

I am privileged to have not had life deal me the cards that some others have been dealt. I really am fortunate and I know that, I also know that each of us have our own misfortunes and we are all entitled to feel emotions no matter how minor they may seem. But then putting things into perspective comes in, and it is always important to consider. There has been an awful lot of tragedy happening in our world as of late, and sometimes it makes me think twice about the negative energy I’m putting toward situations and just how much time can be wasted in doing so, especially over things that in actuality are pretty minor. I am an over thinker, a worrier and I have been known to dwell longer than I should, but I watched a video that was circulating social media recently; I listened to how powerful the words were, and how they posed as a reminder to myself and many others to not allow hatred and evil to overcome us, to instead focus on kindness and unity. It sounds so simple and that’s because it is. Something I’ve realized is that a lot of what each of us have in common is who/what we don’t like, what irritates us and grinds our gears etc. We continue to put more and more negative energy into the world by doing this and feeding into “it”, until it becomes so strong and powerful that we forget about what we are really here for, and what our purpose is. None of us were born prejudice or hateful, it is learned behaviour, and it is behaviour that unfortunately may always exist. That’s not to say that I think we can all float through life without falling short at times, but this video that I watched made me realize how we all have the ability to change and make a difference and to turn our attention to what is more important. Something I will always believe in and preach is love and kindness because it’s simple, it’s effective, and it makes a positive impact on the world around you. Perhaps our world will never be a judge-free zone, but I can say that I will try my best to make a difference if I have the ability to, and I encourage everyone to do the same. If we’re able to have a voice that can be heard, why not use it?

– Amy

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Venice Beach a week ago…missing this beautiful place today ❤
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Life lessons I’ve learned in my (almost) 30 years

IMG_4702The big 3-0 is quickly approaching. Might not sound very daunting to most people but it does to this 29 year old…maybe it’s that it’s such a milestone age? I don’t know, but I do still get ID’d wherever I go – bless you kind souls who think I’m significantly younger than I am – I’ll take it! And I will admit, I have found life hasn’t always worked out the way I may have anticipated when I was younger. When I was a little too naive to know what my future could really hold, and you know what? That’s ok, because I wouldn’t change a thing. I know that life really is all about timing. My 20s have been years to educate myself, to discover my true passions, to grow up and find my independence. I really consider this decade of my life to be a decade of learning and making mistakes that I would one day learn were crucial to shaping me into the person I am today – a person who continues to grow and make mistakes, but maybe also a person who understands and accepts them a little more so now than I did before.

I had my first dog, my first true heartbreak which wouldn’t be the last, I bought my very own car and apartment on my own, and I also found love – the kind of love that I didn’t think I’d ever find and am lucky enough to have. So many firsts, so many experiences which were so foreign to me at the time. I remember wondering if life could get any better at times. If only I could tell my younger self that it would and to hang in there; that I would one day understand why some things didn’t always work out, and the reasons for the struggles.

Soon I’ll be bidding adieu to my 20s. I might check the rear view a couple of times on my way out, but I know that I am ready for this next decade of my life because it’s bound to be even better than the last. So now without further ado, 30 lessons I’ve learned in (almost) 😉 30 years:

1. Do not under any circumstance change who you are to conform to society

2. Never lose yourself in another individual

3. Be true to yourself even if it means removing toxic people from your life

4. Always listen to your gut. It’s usually the keeper of your truest feelings

5. Dance in your kitchen every once in a while, it’s good for the soul. This is especially effective if you have the song Green Light by Lorde playing in the background

6. Sing it loud and sing it proud

7. People aren’t always meant to stay in your life, but they were there when they needed to be

8. Even if life gets hectic, make time for those you love

9. Be present

10. Be you and be a little wild sometimes if necessary

11. Taylor swift really can get you through many of life’s tough situations. Don’t let anyone tell you different!

12. Create a life you will love

13. Get a dog

14. Find your passion and don’t forget to make time for it

15. Decluttering your space will help declutter your mind

16. Don’t sweat the small stuff

17. Be yourself unapologetically

18. Remember you are human

19. It’s ok to admit you are wrong and have a little humility

20. Don’t take yourself too seriously

21. Make moves that will scare you, because they will enrich your life

22. Be fearless

23. Realize how beautiful life is and cherish it in whatever way you can

24. Keep your faith in humanity. Even when we disappoint ourselves and others, we can pull through for each other in tough times

25. Sometimes the best moments in life don’t involve technology – unplug yourself from it or you might miss them

26. Don’t leave anything unsaid, it’s better to say how you feel than live with regret

27. Cherish your family and friends and tell them you love them

28. If you feel alone, remember you aren’t. There are people who care about you even if you are so consumed in your thoughts that you don’t realize it at the time

29. Live and learn and understand that things will get better, your heart will heal, you will be ok

30. Don’t regret anything you do or say because in that moment you did the best you could for yourself

Have a great weekend all! 🙂

-Amy

Namast’ay Inside

Pluviophile: a lover of rain;someone who finds joy and peace of mind during rainy days.

Call me crazy, but I have always been a bit of a pluviophile, of course I love my sunny days most and the motivation they bring, but there’s something very calming about a rainy day. It might stem from growing up in a family that went camping all year round rain or shine. A little bit of rain never stopped us, even if it meant sitting by the campfire with oversized umbrellas roasting hotdogs. To most, this wouldn’t be appealing, but to me it was what built my childhood.

I don’t camp quite as much now, a few times in the summer if I’m lucky, but I still find the same comfort in the rain that I did during these times – only now it’s usually while looking at it through a window from my warm condo. When I find myself moving too quickly and not taking enough time to myself, the rain almost makes it ok to take a day off from the usual hustle and bustle. Maybe I shouldn’t see it this way, but it validates staying indoors, and focusing on my introverted pastimes ie: reading a book, shamelessly binge watching a Netflix series or writing like I am now. Here’s the thing, I don’t let the rain stop me from getting out and living my life by any means, but sometimes these guilt-free inside days are much needed for me to feel centered again. That being said, I am ready for sunshine to return, we are all lacking some serious vitamin D in Vancouver!

On Tuesday I was lucky enough to have a co-worker come in on her day off and put a few of us through a yoga session. We had limited time but were able to do a few Sun Salutations and it’s amazing what a difference it made to a day that had a bit of a rocky start. We left energized albeit very relaxed. This is why I love yoga so much. It serves as a form of meditation, lowers stress and anxiety and improves your sense of well-being. To some it’s a mode of improving flexibility, strength and health, while also exercising the mind. For me it is all of the above, but most importantly it is a way to cleanse my brain of the overload of thoughts I occasionally have and brings me peace of mind.

What motivates you and gets you through the day? Maybe it isn’t yoga, but it’s good to find something that brings positivity to your life and to set aside time for it. If you do decide to give yoga a try, don’t feel discouraged if it takes a little longer to work through some of the poses. Most people aren’t born with the kind of flexibility that it requires but you can work your way up to it.

And for all you dog loving yogi’s out there, here is an adorable frenchie working that cobra yoga pose 😉

-Amy

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Positive Vibes Attract Your Tribe

Sometimes I have to slow down, take a breather and have some time to myself and that time is now – self-care is so needed every once in a while! I haven’t written in quite some time and it is simply because life has been a bit busier these days. In the past little while things have been looking up…way up! The pieces to my puzzle are seemingly coming together and I’m truly in a good place, a place I didn’t anticipate being in just yet, and for that I am so happy and grateful for life’s recent events.

I feel very fortunate to have such supportive people in my life. It isn’t always the case for everyone though. Something I’ve learned a time or two before, is when you are in a good place and you’re truly happy, certain people aren’t always genuinely happy for you. Misery loves company perhaps? Something that I try to take away from situations like this is that it’s merely a reflection of their own insecurities and certainly has nothing to do with you. You just have to be sure to keep those close to you who value your happiness and root for you every step of the way. They’re the ones that deserve your time and energy. People will always talk, people will always have opinions and advice on how you should live, but you don’t have to listen, and you absolutely don’t have to let it affect your life. Maybe it’s the INFJ in me, but people’s opinions have affected me to some degree throughout my life. It is an extremely freeing feeling though, to no longer care and it is something I’ve been consciously doing.

My mom is quite the wordsmith and we both laugh our heads off at some of the things she can come up with on the fly, but she said something to me tonight that I wanted to share: “It’s funny how you can be in a terrible storm but all of a sudden the fog lifts, and in front of you there is a beautiful oasis and it’s just a wonderful sight” – true that mom 😉 and she is so right..I always remained hopeful that my experiences would all line up and make sense to me one day, that there was a reason for the occasional storm and I needed to embrace it because eventually the light would come through again. Well it did, it has been and continues to. Hope you all have a wonderful week 🙂

-Amy

PS here’s a lovely song I’ve had on repeat for days – seriously amazing ❤